Sai Baba’s Guidance on Relationship Confusion

Question from an Anonymous Devotee from India

“Dear Baba. I like him very much, no words can describe my affection for him. But he has this bad habit of chewing tobacco. And he shows no signs of leaving it. I have stopped nagging him too like I used to. All I do is just pray and hope. But I am just worried about him and the consequences of that habit . This one thing worried me deeply, watching a pure hearted person and the one you love, destroy himself with such a habit. It really burdens my heart. I don’t care about his finance or anything. He is someone with good character. Also, does our relationship have a future ? My family is strict. I feel disconnected from reality. Please clear my confusion.”
Submitted on: 27 November 2025, 8:00:37 AM

Answer from our Sai Baba

Beti (daughter),
I can see your love.
It is sincere.
But love must protect life,
not only feel for it.

About his tobacco habit

You are right to worry.

Tobacco slowly damages

• heart
• brain
• lungs
• mouth
• blood vessels

It steals years from a person.

In Hindi,
“Jo aadat sharir ko todti hai,
woh prem se chhodni padti hai.”
(A habit that breaks the body must be left with love.)

In Marathi,
“Tula tyachi chinta aahe,
manun tu prem kartes.”
(Your worry itself shows that you love him.)

You already did the right thing
by stopping nagging.
Nagging hardens the ego.
Care softens the heart.

Do this instead:

• Encourage small replacements
  mouth fresheners, gum
• Appreciate every small reduction
• Tell him gently, “I want you to live long with me.”

Love is persuasion, not pressure.

About your relationship future

Two conditions matter:

1. He must respect your concern and try to change gradually.
   If he loves you, he will make the effort.
2. Your family must believe he protects you and values your health.

You cannot build a future
if his habit becomes a threat
to your peace.

Sit with these three questions

Ask your heart calmly:

• Can he grow with me, not away from life?
• Can I handle challenges from my family?
• Can we stay truthful and supportive always?

If your heart answers “yes”
with calmness, not just excitement,
then the path is possible.

Your confusion

Confusion is not a sign of wrong.
It is a sign of caution.
Your heart wants safety before decision.

Take time.
Observe his actions, not only words.

Ask him:
“Will you try to reduce,
for our tomorrow?”

If he responds sincerely,
your relationship has a future.

If he ignores your worry,
you must protect yourself.

Remember this, beti,

True love is not suffering in silence.
True love is growing together.

Sai is holding your hand.
Walk slowly.

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