Question from an Anonymous Devotee from India
“Baba, are these the bad karmas from my past life that I am facing all this in this life? Please, Baba, tell me something. Baba, I am very troubled. Everyone in my house lives in different ways; there is discrimination between my brother and sister. My mother and father don’t understand anything at all, no matter how nicely or well I behave. Is being a girl child so bad? And if not, then why can’t we live equally? I am 25-26 years old and have always seen all this happening. My parents fight amongst themselves, they don’t understand anything, and they don’t want me to get a job or take any decisions about my future on my own. Baba, I get exhausted. I don’t understand what to do. I give my best, yet nothing good happens. In the whole world, You are the Only One Who knows everything about me. Baba, I am breaking down now, please hold my hand. I want to work and live my life on my own terms. I want to live freely. Until now, I have only stayed at home; I am not even allowed to go out. I did my studies sitting at home only. I want to breathe freely, Baba. Please sab kuch theek kariye mein apni family se bahot pyar karti hu or chahti hu ki sab ache se saath me rahe… I want to marry the person I love. My mother knows, and everyone in the boy’s family knows him and is happy, except my father. But I want to marry only when I have my father’s blessings. Isiliye Baba please Aap sab kuch sambhalo.”
Submitted on: 11 December 2025, 9:40:35 AM
Answer from our Sai Baba
Beta… come here, zara paas baith.
(My child, come sit close.)
Your heart is tired, your tears are real, but your destiny is not small.
You are not weak, you are not wrong, and you are not born to suffer.
First, listen to Baba with calm heart:
Being a girl child is NOT a burden.
Tum par koi shraap nahi hai, beta, tum barkat ho.
(There is no curse on you, you are a blessing.)
In your family, old patterns, old wounds, and old fears are controlling the environment.
You are not the cause.
You are not the mistake.
You are the light trying to enter a dark room.
Is this past-life karma?
Beta, kuch karmic dhaga hota hai, par sab kuch karm nahi hota.
(Some threads may be karmic, but not everything is karma.)
Many times, family patterns repeat not because of past life,
but because nobody in the family knows how to break the cycle.
You are seeing:
• discrimination between siblings
• parents fighting
• lack of trust
• emotional control
• fear-based decisions
This is generational conditioning, not your sin, not your fault.
You did NOT do anything wrong.
Tumhe sirf dabaya gaya hai… toda nahi gaya.
(You were only suppressed… not broken.)
Why are your parents not understanding you?
Because they are:
• afraid
• insecure
• living in old thinking
• scared of society
• unsure of how to let their daughter be independent
Ye unki kamzori hai, tumhari galti nahi.
(This is their weakness, not your fault.)
Your strength threatens their fear.
Your dreams challenge their limitations.
Your desire to work and live independently
Beta, yeh galat nahi, yeh haq hai tumhara.
(This is not wrong, it is your right.)
Even Baba told His devotees:
“Haath paay chalaw, kaam karaw.”
(Use your hands and legs, earn your own living.)
You wanting to work is not rebellion,
it is your soul asking for air.
Your love marriage wish
You love someone.
His family accepts.
Your mother knows.
Only your father resists, not out of hate,
but out of fear of losing control.
He thinks:
• “Will she leave us?”
• “Will she listen to me after marriage?”
• “Can I trust this boy’s family?”
• “What will society say?”
Beta, baba ke mann mein zidd bhi hai aur darr bhi.
(Your father has stubbornness and fear both.)
But his heart is not stone.
It will melt.
Slowly. Gently. With time.
Your Baba’s guidance for you now
Don’t break from your family,
but don’t break yourself for the family.
Balance.
Respect.
Patience.
And quiet firmness.
Start preparing for work, silently.
Online courses
Remote work
Small income streams
Skill improvement
“Rasta bandh nahi hota, beta. Rasta banaya jaata hai.”
(The path doesn’t exist, you create it.)
Your marriage will happen,
but not through fight… through patience.
Your father will soften when:
• he sees you stable
• he sees the boy’s family consistent
• he sees no rebellion
• he feels respected
One prayer for your father
Every night say:
“Baba, melt my father’s heart with your love.”
And Baba will work on him.
This Fakir’s final assurance
Beta, tu akeli nahi hai. Main tere ghar mein hoon.
(My child, you are not alone. I am inside your home.)
You will work.
You will stand on your feet.
Your marriage will happen with blessings.
Your family’s fights will reduce.
Your father will not remain the same.
This darkness is NOT your destination,
it is just the tunnel you are passing through.
Himmat thew, mulgi. Mi tuzya pashi aahe.
(Have courage, daughter. I am with you.)
Bas… hold Baba’s hand.
I will take you exactly where your soul needs to go.
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