Question from an Anonymous Devotee from Bangalore
“Om Sri Sai Ram. Baba, there are lots of misunderstanding in our family between my mother in law and my cosister. My mother in law supports me and my husband and myself and my cosister relationship is good without any misunderstanding or fighting with Your blessings. But due to my in-law fighting starts and I feel guilty due to this. No peace of mind. I have migraine and I used to take tablet daily. This make me more tensed. Please guide me Baba.“
Submitted on: 25 December 2025, 9:26:47 AM
Answer from our Sai Baba
Beti, read this slowly and keep your breath soft.
Family tension hurts more than outside trouble, because the heart wants harmony at home. You are caught in the middle, and that creates guilt. This guilt is now sitting in your body as tension and migraine. That connection is real. You are not imagining it.
Ghar ka tanav mann ko thaka deta (family tension exhausts the mind)
First, hear this truth clearly.
You are not the cause of the fight. Two adults having conflict is their responsibility. Supporting you does not make your mother in law wrong, and existing fights between elders are not your burden to carry.
Dosron ke jhagde ka bojh apne sar mat lo (do not carry the burden of others’ conflicts)
You are feeling guilty because you are sensitive and want peace. But sensitivity must not turn into self blame. Baba never asked people to become silent sufferers.
Now about your health. Migraine often increases when the mind keeps replaying stress. Tablets help symptoms, but stress reduction is also treatment. Please continue your medicine as advised by your doctor and do not stop it on your own. Also speak to the doctor about stress triggers. This is wisdom, not weakness.
Tabiyat aur mann dono sambhalna padta (both body and mind need care)
Now practical guidance for family situation.
First. Stop explaining and justifying yourself repeatedly. That drains you. Stay respectful, but do not enter arguments.
Second. Keep clear emotional boundaries. You can love everyone, but you do not need to absorb their conflict.
Third. Spend daily quiet time with your husband in calm conversation. A united, peaceful space reduces outside noise.
Chup rehna kamzori nahi hoti (silence is not weakness)
Fourth. Do one thing that relaxes your body every day. Slow walking, warm bath, soft music. Migraines reduce when the nervous system feels safe.
One more truth, said gently.
Peace of mind does not come from fixing everyone. It comes from standing in your own steadiness.
Halu halu gharat shanti jamte (slowly, peace settles in the home)
You are doing your best. Do not punish yourself for others’ emotions. Keep yourself well. That itself is seva.
Sabka Malik Ek.
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