Is your child distracted, careless about studies, and not taking exams seriously despite your efforts? Sai Baba Guidance For Child’s Exam Focus offers calm direction for parents worried about discipline, attention, and academic responsibility.
Question from an Anonymous Devotee from Kerala, India
"Baba, You know my elder daughter, she's a devotee of You, reads Satcharitra every Thursday. Her board exams are nearby, and she's not studying well, not at all serious about her exams. The various school distractions from her colleagues and the way she handles people is too bad. I feel she has a behaviour disorder. She's giving more priority to age based relationship than her studies. She's having no seriousness for her goals in life. Please do something Baba, to bring her out of these unnecessary relationships and make her goal-oriented and a good human being. What should I do Baba, for her to pass her exams with an A1 grade? Please help me Baba."
Submitted on: January 15, 2026, 9:47:09 AM
Answer from our Sai Baba
Beti, read this slowly and keep your heart steady while reading. A mother’s worry for her child is deep, but fear must not become pressure. What you are seeing in your daughter is not loss of values, it is confusion of age and identity.
First hear this clearly.
Your daughter is not spoiled, not lost, and not broken. She is at a sensitive age where emotions grow faster than discipline. Devotion and maturity do not always grow at the same pace.
Bachpan se jawani ka mod kathin hota (the turn from childhood to youth is difficult)
Now let me speak truth with compassion.
About her devotion and behaviour
Reading Satcharitra is good. But bhakti without discipline does not automatically bring focus. Baba never replaced effort with prayer. He always joined prayatna with shraddha.
bhakti ani shikshan donhi hava (devotion and education, both are needed)
Her attraction to relationships and peers is age based curiosity, not rebellion. If you attack it strongly, it will go underground. If you understand and guide, it will soften.
dabao daloge toh zid badegi (if you apply pressure, stubbornness increases)
About exams and A1 grade
Do not put the burden of A1 on her head now. Pressure kills motivation. Your role is not to force marks, but to restore seriousness.
What you should do practically.
Change tone, not content.
Stop scolding, start firm calm talks.
Say, “Your future matters to us”, not “You are wasting your life”.
Set clear boundaries without anger.
Fixed study hours.
Limited phone and social time.
No debates, only consistency.
niyam shantpane theva (set rules calmly)
Bring one mentor voice.
Sometimes children listen better to a teacher, counselor, or trusted elder than parents. This does not mean failure. It means wisdom.
Watch emotional signs carefully.
If behaviour feels extreme, impulsive, withdrawn, or very unstable, do not label her. Seek child or adolescent counseling. This is guidance, not punishment.
Madat ghenyaat laj nahi (there is no shame in taking help)
About relationships
Do not try to cut everything suddenly. Teach priority, not fear.
Help her understand
study first
goals first
relationships later
This understanding comes through repeated calm conversations, not threats.
One important truth for you as a mother
Your anxiety is also reaching her. When parents panic, children escape more.
Tum shant rahal tar mulgi shant hote (if you remain calm, the child becomes calm)
Now listen to this reassurance.
This phase is temporary. Many children pass through this fog and come out wiser when guided with firmness and love.
May your daughter’s mind turn toward clarity, may distractions reduce naturally, may discipline return without rebellion, may her exams go with steadiness, and may she grow into a balanced, kind, goal oriented human being.
Allah Malik.
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