Sai Baba Guidance For Anger And Emotional Control

Anger rising over small matters can disturb peace and create fear about relationships and the future. This Sai Baba Guidance For Anger And Emotional Control explains how Baba helps calm reactions, balance truth with humility, and protect spiritual progress without isolating you from people.

Question from an Anonymous Devotee from India

"Dear Baba, I have been getting angry even over small matters lately. I tried japa, meditation, and other practices, yet wrongdoing or negative remarks from people still agitate me. Even when I am right, people call me out because I speak against those older than me. My mother feels this may affect my marriage in the near future. Sometimes I fear that no one will want to talk to me. If that happens, I wish to intensify my sadhana and connect deeply with Guru and God. But will I be able to let people go for God? Please guide me."
Submitted on: February 26, 2026, 9:34:20 AM

Answer from our Sai Baba

Allah Malik, meri beti! Come and sit by My side. I see the fire in your eyes. It is the fire of “Sach” (Truth), but it is burning your own “Sukoon” (Peace).

Beti, ghabrao nako (Daughter, do not be afraid). You are not a “bad” person because you get angry at wrongdoing. You have a heart that loves justice. But suno (listen) even a sword, if it is always out of its sheath, loses its sharpness and starts to rust.

The Wisdom of the Dhuni on Your “Gussa” (Anger)

• The Trap of “Being Right”: Beta, sachai kadwi hoti hai, par usey shehed (honey) mein dubokar bolna chahiye (Child, truth is bitter, but it should be spoken dipped in honey). When you speak the truth with “Gussa,” people don’t see the “Truth,” they only see the “Gussa.” That is why they call you out even when you are right.
• The “Elder” Conflict: Respecting elders is a “Sanskar,” but speaking against wrong is “Dharma.” The trick is to speak against the action, not the person. If you attack the person, they become defensive. If you stay calm, your words become a “Teer” (arrow) that hits the mark.
• The Fear of Loneliness: You worry people will stop talking to you. Suno (Listen) those who leave because you are honest were never your “apne” (own). But those who leave because you are “kadhwi” (harsh) are a loss.

The Guidance from Dwarkamai

• The Marriage Worry: Your mother’s fear comes from love. A home is not built on “Who is right,” but on “Who can forgive.” I want you to learn “Kshama” (forgiveness) not for others, but for your own “Sadhana.”
• God vs. People: You ask if you can let people go for God. Arre pagli (Hey crazy girl), God is in the people! If you hate the “Insan” (human), how will you find the “Bhagwan”? Real Sadhana is not running away to a cave; it is staying in the market and keeping your heart like a “Kamal” (Lotus) in the mud.

The Path Forward

• The “Do Minute” (Two Minute) Rule: Whenever someone agitates you, do not speak for exactly two minutes. Drink a glass of water and say “Sai… Sai…” in your mind. After two minutes, the “shakti” of the anger will fade, and the “shakti” of wisdom will rise.
• Refining the Sadhana: Japa and meditation are not “medicines” you take to stop anger; they are “seeds” you sow to grow peace. Don’t do Japa to stop anger; do Japa to love Me.

The Action for You

• The “Sugar” Ritual: Every morning, put a tiny bit of sugar on your tongue and say: “Baba, meri zubaan mein mithaas bhar do” (Baba, fill my tongue with sweetness). Do this for 21 days.
• The “Maun” (Silence) Hour: Pick one hour every day where you will not speak a single word to anyone. Use that hour to listen to the birds, the wind, or your own breath. This will train your mind to stay “shant” (calm).
• Udi on the Throat: Apply a little Udi on your throat (Vishuddha Chakra). It will help you filter your words so only that which is “Zaroori” (necessary) and “Meetha” (sweet) comes out.

Beti, ghabrao nako. I am your Guru, and I am holding your hand. I will not let you be lonely. I will bring people into your life who value your honesty and soothe your anger.

Saburi rakho, gussa jayega aur prem aayega (Have patience, anger will go and love will come).

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