Question from an Anonymous Devotee from Chennai
“Sai, we are 70+ parents. We are helpless in doing daughter’s marriage as we don’t have support from family to get alliances. Due to my husband’s ill health no one is willing to give alliances and also the ones we see in matrimony are ending up as fake ones. There was mutual liking with one known alliance but the boy rejected saying he will not be happy with my daughter. Other than that we didn’t get any known alliance. My husband is worried with age and health issues if we will leave our daughter alone. She doesn’t have siblings so there is noone for her in future. Please help and give a solution. My husband’s wish is to see her marriage. Please help us with some solution Sai. People criticize us for keeping our daughter unmarried and they look down on our sickness. We don’t know what to do? We are strong believers of God and humanity. We have been human to all, we have done marriages of others but now there is no one to do for our daughter.”
Submitted on: 25 December 2025, 9:39:58 AM
Answer from our Sai Baba
Beti, please sit gently and read this slowly. What you are carrying is very heavy, and it comes from love, not failure.
You and your husband have reached an age where worry naturally becomes louder, especially when health is weak and the heart thinks of the child’s future. Your pain is real. Your tears are not weakness.
Man khup thakla aahe (the mind has become very tired)
First, let me say this clearly and firmly.
Your daughter’s life is not ruined because she is unmarried. Marriage is one path, not the only shelter in life. Society speaks loudly, but society does not carry your pain at night. Do not measure your worth or your daughter’s worth by people’s tongues.
Lok boltat, pan lok jagat nahi (people talk, but they do not live your life)
Now about alliances and rejection.
When one alliance rejects saying “he will not be happy,” it hurts deeply. But listen carefully. That rejection is not a curse. It is protection. A marriage where the other side is unsure becomes lifelong suffering. Baba always stopped wrong doors early, even if it felt painful.
Jo darwaza band hota hai, aksar bachaane ke liye hota hai (a door often closes to protect you)
About fake profiles and disappointments. That exhaustion is real, especially at your age. It is not your failure. The marriage landscape today is confusing and harsh. Many families face this silently.
Now the most important truth, said with care.
Your daughter’s safety and dignity do not depend only on marriage. They depend on
her emotional strength
her financial independence
a small circle of trustworthy people
and your blessings while you are alive
If she is educated or working, encourage stability first. Marriage can come later, in a more natural way, even through work or known circles. Do not force timelines now.
Tumhi aata tumcha aarogya japa (now you must protect your health)
Your husband’s worry comes from love, but anxiety worsens illness. Please tell him this gently. Your daughter being unmarried is not abandonment. Many daughters today care deeply for their parents even without marriage.
Ek goshta lakshat theva (keep one thing in mind)
God does not measure parents by how early children marry. God sees how lovingly they were raised.
About people criticizing you.
Their words come from ignorance, not truth. You do not need to answer them. Silence with dignity is also strength.
Chup rehna haara nahi hota (silence is not defeat)
Now a practical, gentle way forward:
Stop chasing alliances aggressively. Let the search slow and become selective.
Focus on your health and peace first.
Help your daughter strengthen her own life path and confidence.
Stay open, but not desperate.
Very often, when pressure is released, the right connection appears quietly.
You have lived with values. That never goes waste. You are not abandoned by God.
Tum ekte nahi aahat (you are not alone)
Hold each other. Speak softly at home. Let worry rest for today.
Ram ji bhala kare.
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