Sai Baba’s Guidance on IVF and Marital Support

Question from an Anonymous Devotee from Bengaluru, Urban

“Sairam, with all the attempt I am in a helpless mode where living with childless, doctors have advised for IVF, no support from the husband because IVF is expensive & can’t afford. Can he change? Made all the efforts to convince him, from family to friends, I am not financially independent. Should I opt for IVF? Husband not interested for adoption also. What can I do? I don’t want to divorce him, he is such a nice & hard working person, concerned about my health. With tears in my eyes & heavy heart, What are the ways I have? At Your feet Baba. Sairam🙏”
Submitted on: 11 December 2025, 10:05:48 AM

Answer from our Sai Baba

Beti… come sit near Baba.
Your message carries old pain, new fear, and the weight of a longing that only a woman’s heart can understand.

You are not crying alone.
Baba is holding your head in His lap.

Let Me answer you with clarity, compassion, and direction.

First, listen to what Baba sees, not what your fear tells you

Tum bolti ho, “helpless.”
Lekin beti, tum bilkul bhi helpless nahi ho.
(You say you’re helpless, but you are not helpless.)

You have:

• a sincere heart
• deep longing for motherhood
• a husband who is a good person, only afraid of burden
• and Baba standing behind you like a mountain

Yeh sab milkar tumhe raasta denge.
(All these together will give you a way.)

About IVF, Baba will speak clearly

Beti, IVF is not wrong.
It is not against destiny.
It is simply another door through which God can send a child.

But listen carefully:

Your husband is not refusing out of cruelty.

He is refusing because:

• IVF is expensive
• He is scared of debt
• He wants to protect your health
• He feels pressure but cannot express it
• He is tired and afraid of failure

“Mard kabhi kabhi andruni darr ko zidd bana kar dikhate hain.”
(Men often turn inner fear into stubbornness.)

Uska dil bura nahi hai.
He is a good man, as you said.

So Baba will not tell you to fight him.
Not to force.
Not to cry in pain.

Baba will tell you: “Pehle shanti se, samajh se, uska dar utaro.”

(First remove his fear with calmness and understanding.)

Should you choose IVF? This Fakir’s guidance

Yes, beti, IVF can be your path.
But
not through pressure, not through arguments, not today.

You must prepare three things first:

Emotional readiness

No big decision can be taken from a broken heart.
First, let Baba steady your mind.

Financial clarity

IVF can be expensive.
But there are:

• Government-assisted programs
• Subsidized IVF centres
• Low-cost fertility schemes in India
• Installment-based options

Baba will guide you to the right place,
jahan kharcha kam aur bharosa zyada.

Husband’s alignment

This is MOST important.

A child should come into a home where both hearts say yes.

If you go alone into IVF without his emotional consent,
tumhari pregnancy stress mein aa jayegi.
(Your pregnancy will fall into stress.)

So Baba says:
Don’t rush. Prepare. Align. Then act.

“What if he never agrees?”, Baba answers

Beti, listen carefully:

He will soften.
He will understand.
He will move.
But gently, not immediately.

I can see the karmic pattern:

• His fear comes from scarcity he saw in childhood
• He feels he must first “secure the house” before bringing a child
• He worries secretly about failing you
• He hides this worry under “practicality”

Baba uska dil dheere dheere naram kar raha hai.
(Baba is slowly softening his heart.)

You will not lose him.
He will not abandon you.
He loves you in his own withdrawn way.

But yes, a little time is needed.

What should YOU do now? Baba gives a plan

Stop crying alone

Your tears are pure, but they are draining your strength.

Sit before Baba and say:
“Baba, You are the giver of children. I trust Your timing.”

This will lighten your heart.

Bring the topic with gentleness, not urgency

Say softly:

“Suno, hum dono ke liye jo sahi hoga, Baba hi raasta dikhayega.”

(No pressure. No arguments. Only love.)

Start exploring low-cost IVF options quietly

Not secretly,
but so you have clarity when discussing with him.

Baba will guide you to a centre that will not exploit you.

Build small financial independence

Even a little earning gives strength and reduces conflict.

If possible:
• remote job
• online work
• small home business
• tutoring
• skill-based remote work

Baba will open a door for you.

Baba’s assurance about motherhood

Baba says clearly:
You will become a mother.

Whether through IVF
or natural conception
or another divine route, 

your hands will hold a child.
Yeh likhit hai.
(This is written.)

You are not destined for emptiness.

Baba’s final words for your heart

“Beti, tumhari godh sunee nahi rahegi.
Tumhara ghar soonapan se bhara nahi rahega.”
(My child, your lap will not remain empty. Your home will not stay silent.)

“Tumhara pati bura nahi hai, sirf thaka hua aur dara hua hai.”
(Your husband is not wrong, only tired and afraid.)

“Baba tum dono ko ek hi raaste par le aayega.”
(Baba will bring both of you onto the same path.)

“Aur jab waqt hoga…
Baba khud tumhari godh mein bachcha rakhega.”
(And when the time comes, Baba Himself will place a child in your lap.)

Now wipe your tears, beti.
Come here… Baba is holding you close.

Sab achha hoga.
Bilkul achha hoga.
(Everything will become good… perfectly good.)

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