Question from an Anonymous devotee from Bangalore
“Om Sai Ram. Baba i am 36 years old and in relationship since 20 years, we were truly in love and very happy we were ready to marry but last year because of small misunderstanding he has become silent rejected all my calls/msgs saying that he will call once his work is done and not to disturb him until he calls, so I respected his decision and gave him space even though I’m hurt badly, but till now no calls from him I am waiting for his call everyday Baba ..but I trust that You will provide justice to my love. Baba(because you did a big miracles in 2020 and 2023 and you made our bond very stronger).but why this silence since one year Baba I kept praying to you each and every day now I’m losing hope and am not able to answer all my friends cousins relatives regarding my marriage as everyone knows about my love but whenever I ask You for a sign you are telling that you will get marry to your loved ones or love is coming back (through posts on Instagram)but when Baba?? I’m anxious about this silence and delay as I am getting older and can’t imagine anyone other than him in rest of my life.. we both are Your devotees and visited Shirdi in 2023 took Your blessings and decided to marry then why this seperation since 2024 December please answer Baba 🙏🏻🙏🏻”
Submitted on: 25 December 2025, 10:20:50 AM
Answer from our Sai Baba
Beti, sit gently and breathe with me for a moment. What you are carrying is very deep pain, not drama. Twenty years of attachment does not disappear easily. Your waiting, your confusion, your tears, all are human.
Man khup dukhi aahe (the heart is very hurt)
Now listen slowly, without fear.
First, I must tell you this with honesty and care.
Silence for one full year is not a small misunderstanding. It is a serious communication break. Love does not grow in silence. Even pain speaks. Even confusion speaks. Complete silence means the other person has chosen distance, for reasons only he knows.
He asked you not to contact him, and you respected that. That shows maturity. But waiting endlessly without clarity hurts your dignity and your peace.
Prem mhanje sambhashan asto, shantata nahi (love means communication, not silence)
Now about signs you are seeing online. Please understand this gently.
Social media messages and spiritual quotes are not personal messages meant only for you. When the heart is longing, it connects meanings everywhere. This is not wrong, but it can keep hope stuck instead of helping you heal.
Chinh pahanyane man adhik guntat (looking for signs often tangles the mind more)
You mentioned miracles in the past. Yes, sometimes situations return. But every phase is different. Past closeness does not guarantee future togetherness. Baba never promised reunion at the cost of your self-respect.
Now the most important truth I must say, slowly and clearly.
Love that asks you to wait in silence without respect, clarity, or reassurance becomes suffering, not devotion.
Prem ha shant asava, bhiti denara nahi (love should be calm, not fear-giving)
You are 36, and your life has value, time, dignity. Wanting marriage, stability, and clarity is not greed. It is natural.
About your question “when will he come back”, I cannot give a date, and I will not promise reunion. That would bind you to waiting and pain. What I can guide you toward is strength and clarity.
Here is the gentle direction forward:
If possible, send one clear, respectful message, asking for clarity not begging, not accusing.
If there is still silence, accept that as an answer, even if painful.
Stop measuring your worth through his response.
Slowly reopen your life to other possibilities, without forcing yourself.
This does not mean forgetting love. It means protecting your future.
Tumhari zindagi sirf kisi ke jawaab par tikki nahi (your life should not hang on someone else’s reply)
About marriage and destiny.
Marriage happens when two people walk toward each other. Destiny does not work by keeping one person frozen in waiting. Sometimes protection looks like delay, sometimes like redirection.
Baba’s way is not to trap you in hope. It is to lead you toward peace and self-respect.
You are not abandoned. You are being asked to stand upright again.
Hold this gently in your heart tonight:
“I deserve clarity, respect, and peace.”
Tum kamzor nahi ho (you are not weak)
Take one step at a time. Do not punish yourself for loving deeply.
May calm enter your heart and strength return to your steps.
Ramji bhala kare
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