Are you in love but facing intense family pressure to marry against your heart’s choice? Sai Baba Guidance For Marriage Against Family Pressure supports those torn between responsibility, fear, and sincere love.
Question from an Anonymous Devotee from Farrukhabad, Uttar Pradesh
"Baba, first of all, thank You for coming into my life. I am very troubled and emotionally exhausted. I have been in a relationship for the past 7 to 8 years. The kind of life partner I always wanted, You gave me exactly that. However, there is one issue. There is a 12-year age gap between us. His family is putting a lot of pressure on him to get married. When he spoke to them, they said he can marry whoever he wants and they have no objection, but they want him to get married now. I also spoke at home and told my mother, but she did not support me. She said my father will not agree. This situation is causing me a lot of stress. Due to constant pressure, he has decided to marry according to his family’s wishes because he cannot handle this situation anymore and cannot give more time. He does not want to leave me, but he feels helpless because he is the only one in his family and all responsibilities are on him. Please show me a solution so that we can stay together. I have been preparing for government exams for many years and I am very tired, but I have not been selected yet. I thought that once I get a job, I will talk to my father. If I speak now, he may react badly toward me and my partner. That is why I do not want my partner to come to my house right now, as my father cares a lot about his reputation. I have never really received fatherly affection from my father, and that pain stays with me. Baba, please save my relationship. I have come to You with a lot of hope. Please find a way so that due to helplessness and family pressure, we do not end up hurting our own lives."
Submitted on: January 22, 2026, 9:46:54 AM
Answer from our Sai Baba
Beti, read this slowly and let the weight in your chest soften a little while you read. What you are carrying is love, fear, exhaustion, and responsibility all at once. Anyone in your place would feel overwhelmed.
Pehli baat, tumhari peeda asli hai (your pain is real)
About your relationship and the age gap
A long relationship does not become false because of an age difference. What matters is mutual respect, shared values, and emotional safety. But marriage does not depend only on love. It also depends on readiness and courage to stand together.
prem khara asla tari lagna don lokanchi tayyari maagte (even if love is true, marriage needs readiness from both)
Your partner is not weak or uncaring. He is torn between duty and desire. Being the only one with family responsibility creates fear of guilt and loss of approval. That fear is now deciding for him.
zimmedari ka bojh kabhi kabhi faisla chheen leta (the burden of responsibility sometimes takes away one’s choice)
A hard truth you must hear with care
Love alone cannot hold a marriage if one person is not able to stand firm. Right now, he is choosing relief from pressure over the relationship. That does not mean he never loved you. It means he is emotionally cornered.
dabav asla ki manus maarg badalto (under pressure, a person changes direction)
You asked for a solution so you both can stay together. Hear this honestly.
There are only two real possibilities, not many hidden ones.
One. He chooses to pause marriage decisions and stands with you, even if it upsets family for some time. This requires courage from him, not sacrifice from you alone.
Two. He proceeds with family wishes, and you are left carrying the loss, even though love existed.
Right now, he is moving toward the second, not because he wants to, but because he cannot hold the pressure.
jo khada nahi reh sakta, woh saath nahi nibha pata (one who cannot stand firm cannot sustain togetherness)
About your parents and your fear
Your fear of your father’s reaction is understandable, especially when affection has always been conditional. Wanting job security before speaking is practical, not wrong.
suraksha pahije, te chukicha nahi (wanting security is not wrong)
But silence also has a cost. Waiting endlessly drains your strength.
About your exams and exhaustion
Years of preparation without selection drains confidence and hope. Right now, you are trying to save career, love, and family harmony together, and that is too much for one heart.
Tum thak chuki ho, kamzor nahi (you are exhausted, not weak)
What you must do now, step by step
Not miracles. Clarity.
Have one final honest conversation with him.
Not pleading. Not crying. Ask clearly,
“Are you willing to stand with me, even if it takes time and conflict?”
His answer, not hope, will guide your next step.
Do not keep yourself on hold indefinitely.
Waiting without commitment slowly breaks self respect.
anant pratiksha hriday todte (endless waiting breaks the heart)
Separate your self worth from this relationship.
Your life, career, and dignity do not end here, even if this love does.
Seek emotional support.
A counselor or trusted elder can help you think clearly. This is strength.
Madat ghenyaat laj nahi (there is no shame in taking help)
Beti, I will say this with care and firmness.
A relationship worth saving is one where both are willing to face discomfort, not where one sacrifices everything to protect others from conflict.
Whatever happens next, do not let guilt or fear decide your life.
May courage replace confusion, may truth become clear even if it hurts, may your heart be protected from breaking silently, and may the right path open, whether it leads to union or to a stronger, freer you.
Sabka Malik Ek.
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