Do you feel unloved, rejected, and misunderstood everywhere you go? Sai Baba Guidance For Emotional Healing And Self Worth speaks to those who feel used, criticized, and emotionally drained despite doing their best.
Question from an Anonymous Devotee from Mumbai, India
"I feel like everyone hates me. I have never truly felt love, not in my mother’s family, not in my office, and not even in my in-laws’ house. People come close to me, get their work done, and once I say a few words, they leave, saying I am the worst person in the world. All my good work goes in vain. People say they feel suffocated around me, and that makes me worry even more. Baba, please guide me and help me understand what is happening."
Submitted on: January 22, 2026, 9:45:18 AM
Answer from our Sai Baba
Beti, sit quietly for a moment and read this slowly, without arguing with yourself.
What you are describing is not hatred from the world, it is a pattern of emotional misuse and misunderstanding, and it has wounded your self worth deeply. When people come to you for help, take benefit, and then leave by blaming you, the heart starts believing something is wrong with me. That belief is the real pain.
Jab log kaam ke liye paas aate aur baad mein dosh dete (when people come close for work and later blame you) toh dil toot jata hai (so the heart breaks)
First, hear this clearly and firmly.
You are not a bad person.
A bad person does not worry about hurting others.
A bad person does not question herself like this.
vichar karna mhanje dosh nasna (to reflect means you are not at fault)
Now understand what is happening.
Why people come close and then leave
Some people are comfortable receiving, not relating.
They like your availability, your help, your listening.
But when you speak your truth, set a boundary, or express hurt, they feel exposed. Instead of owning it, they label you as “difficult”.
log apni kamzori tum pe daalte (people dump their weakness onto you)
That does not make you suffocating.
It makes them unable to handle honesty.
“People feel suffocated with me”
This sentence is hurting you deeply, but listen carefully.
People feel suffocated not because you are heavy,
but because you stop carrying everything silently.
tumhi bolayla laglat mhanje tumhi chukichya nahi (starting to speak does not make you wrong)
When you stay quiet and helpful, you are “good”.
When you speak, you become “bad”.
This is not your fault. This is a toxic expectation.
Why your good work feels in vain
Because you are giving to people who do not have the capacity to value it. Pouring water into a cracked vessel always feels wasted.
galat logon ko diya toh thakaan hoti (giving to the wrong people causes exhaustion)
What you must do now, gently but firmly
One. Stop over explaining yourself.
Not everyone deserves access to your inner world.
Two. Reduce emotional availability.
Help less. Observe more. See who stays when you don’t over give.
Three. Choose one safe space.
One person or one professional where you can speak freely.
Madat lena kamzori nahi (seeking help is not weakness)
Four. Change the question in your mind.
Not “Why do people leave me?”
But “Why do I keep giving to those who don’t respect me?”
svatahchi seema olakha (know your boundaries)
Pooja beti, you are not suffocating.
You are sensitive in a world that prefers convenience.
You are honest among people who avoid truth.
Do not shrink yourself to be tolerated.
The right people breathe easier around honesty.
May the burden of false blame fall away, may clarity replace self doubt, may one or two genuine connections enter your life, and may you learn to protect your heart without hardening it.
Sabka Malik Ek.
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